Stepping out of an abusive relationship, taking that job or leaving the current job. Saying yes to that proposal, or making the proposal.
Life seems like a serial roller-coaster of decisions. It is reported on the web that the average adult makes more than 30 000 decisions per day in contrast to those made by children (around 3000 per day). With this already we can see that decision making is a big part of each and every part of our lives. But how can we ensure that we make the right decisions? Does what I decide really matter in the long run?
To make sure we are on the same page on what a decision is, let us define it:
According to Google:
a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration.“I’ll make the decision on my own”
the action or process of deciding something or of resolving a question.“the information was used as the basis for decision”
the ability or tendency to make decisions quickly; decisiveness.“she was a woman of decision”
I cannot personally answer the last question in the previous paragraph for you, you have to decide. You see, you still have to decide. You can’t escape decision making, even when you choose not to decide you are deciding.
If the words of the Lord through the Prophet Jeremiah are true, which I believe they are, ”For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV. Then the decisions we make or don’t make could affect whether this promise becomes a reality or not. It is one thing for one to have a plan for another person and it is another thing all together whether that plan comes to fruition.
For example, many parents have dreams and aspirations for their children, one of them is that they may get the best education they possibly can with the resources available to the parents and them. Now, in as much as the parents wish for this good thing, once the child has decided that the education the parents prescribe is not good for them, there is almost nothing the parents can do to ensure that the child receives this kind of education, they may just receive schooling (There’s a difference between schooling and education). Yes, the child may go to school to please the parents until such a time as they have it in their ability to resist the parents’ decision for the ‘right education’. So too are our lives, only we can decide the kind of life we want because we have something animals don’t have, the right and privilege to choose the life we want.
Well, you might say, I did not choose the color of my skin or the country of my birth or the kind of family I was born in. That is all true, there are some things we can not change, try as we may. In as much as there are things we can’t change, there are more things we can change through the choices we make or don’t make.
Now, the title of this article is, Why the worst decision you will ever make is not deciding. I stand to defend this notion because not deciding is deciding to leave things to happen by default, in other words, letting other people decide your future, or giving other people the right to choose the kind of life you should live. It means that whatever will be will be. You might ask: isn’t that what is required by the verse you quoted above? No, If you read that verse in the context of the letter it was written in, the 29th chapter of the book, you will find that it is meant to be a collaborative work between God and his people, that means God Himself wants His good plans for your life to come to pass with your cooperation, in other words, you can decide for them to not be, and you will be to blame for it.
“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change you’re the one who has got to change.” Katharine Hepburn