This post is a continuation from my first part on “Why Time Management is not working for you”. Be sure to read that first before this post.
Let’s Go through this questions together and see how they can better help you take full control of your time/life.What are your core values?
What are your core values?
What do you as a person believe in? Why do you think you are on this ball of rock for? Does your life even matter? Before you close this tab, thinking: I came here to find out how to manage my time and here is this guy asking me questions I don’t even want to think about, hold on. Reason with me a bit. Take this scenario, when buying a
Reason with me a bit. Take this scenario; when buying a smartphone, we don’t just go out and just buy the next thing labeled smartphone. We ask some important questions like how much can I afford to spend on the phone? Besides calling and messaging, what else do I want to do with it? What about the camera? and so on.
Then we get the one, within our budget, that can do those things we need and more if possible. Unless the purpose for a thing is known, we can not determine whether it is being used properly or being abused, more-often-than-not, the latter is the norm.
Ask yourself this important question in order to know what the best use of your time is.
Do your Goals align with your core values?
Now that you have answered what your core values are, do your current goals align with them?
Let me elaborate. If your plan was to travel from New York to Los Angeles, would you get on an airplane headed to Nairobi? No! Unless of course there were only two planes in the world and the one from Nairobi is the only one that goes to Los Angeles.
The same applies to your life and how to manage/take-charge/control it. Look at your current goals, do they align with what you believe your life to be?
Look at your current goals, do they align with what you believe your life to be?
Are you trying too hard to do everything at once?
Now that you have answered this question on Life/Time management, it is easy to fall into the trap of trying to do everything on your goal list all at once.
Maybe it is the very reason you have tried all those time management strategies that seem to have failed. Maybe they didn’t fail, but you failed because you tried to do them all at once.
John Bytheway once said: inch by inch, life’s a cinch. Yard by yard, life’s hard.
Do not, I repeat, do not try and do everything all at once. start with one thing, do it for a week or three, once you have mastered that, add one more thing and repeat for the next three weeks. For example, if one of your goals is to become an early bird, do not try and start waking up at 04:00 am if you know you usually wake up at 08:00 am. Start with 07:00 for at least 3 weeks and move up to 06:00 and then to 05:00 then your target time. That way you build up momentum and confidence in your abilities.
For example, if one of your goals is to become an early bird, do not try and start waking up at 04:00 am if you know you usually wake up at 08:00 am. Start with 07:00 for at least 3 weeks and move up to 06:00 and then to 05:00 then your target time. That way you build up momentum and confidence in your abilities.
Are you thinking long term or are you looking for a quick fix now?
Are the goals that you have set up doable in a few months or years with the resources and skills you currently possess? Or do you need to build up your inventory of skills and resources to be able to achieve your worthy goals?
Using our example of the plane travel above. If there were only two planes in the world and you needed to go to Los Angeles from New York, and you knew that the only way to get to your destination was to fly via Nairobi. What skills and resources do you need to stock right now and which can you acquire in Nairobi to ensure that your journey to Los Angeles will not be aborted?
I know this is far-fetched but it serves the purpose of illustration as life doesn’t always follow the straight and narrows but is laden with many unfamiliar twists and turns. For you to be able to whether the ‘surprise’ storms, you must plan accordingly. Divide your one-year goal into small monthly steps and into weekly and daily tasks.
Once you have them divided into daily tasks, allocate an hour in the day for its execution, then build up a routine, like our waking up example above. Before you know it, you will have accomplished your year(ly) goal.
What do you expect; are you expecting too much or too little?
Having read this far, I am sure referencing our 04:00 wake up challenge suffices for an illustration. Often times, we are disappointed by the fact that we expected too much too soon. And other times, we accomplish things that are below our potentials because we expected too little of ourselves.
What am I saying? In the words of Socrates: Know Thyself. This brings us back to question number one through five of this article:
unless you know yourself, your core values and align your goals accordingly, with the right planning, you might not meet your expectations or you might be under-performing.
In fact, it is in doing that we also discover more of ourselves in the process of work and growth. You must realize that time, which is your life, is a gift. And for you to make the best use of it, you need to utilize it in a way that is tailored to the kind of person you are and are becoming. All this takes time, pardon the wordplay.
Don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t reach that goal, yet. Instead, be grateful for the opportunity to have been able to do it and the current one to be able to do it again to perfection(growth).
In conclusion, Time/Life Management is a skill, and like all skills, practice is required. With just enough practice, we can all get there. Remember the time you were learning how to walk? I don’t, but I sure am happy I never gave up. I wish you all the best with your Life Management.